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Dad blogger Chris Farley Ratcliffe shares how placing a set of twins for adoption at age 16 has shaped his family life and his view on the difference between being a father and being a dad.
I grew up in a house split by divorce. My parents separated and divorced by the time I was ten. My brother and I lived with my mum while my dad moved further away over the years in pursuit of work. He was a travelling salesman and his work took him far and wide. My parents maintained a good relationship in spite of their divorce and my brother and I grew up in a family free from the acrimony that is present in so many divorced families. Nonetheless I was and am very determined to avoid divorce in my own life. My partner and I make the effort to talk with one another about any issues that we each feel need to be addressed so that we can work through them together.
When I was 16 my girlfriend and I discovered that she was pregnant. She decided that she wanted to carry the baby to term. A couple of months into the pregnancy we discovered the fetus she was carrying was in fact two. We decided to place the twins for adoption and since it was a closed adoption, we knew nothing of their lives for the next 23 years.
When my partner and I started dating I told her about the twins who were out there somewhere…
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