Today is the day of pink at our school. It is also known as anti-bullying day and is marked on different days depending where you are. It all started with some guys in a high school in Nova Scotia who stepped up. A fellow student was bullied for wearing a pink shirt to school. In response these two guys bought a whole pile of pink shirts and told their friends and the next day hundreds of students showed up wearing pink.
Day of Pink
Today I am wearing pink in solidarity with my daughters, the kids at the school and all those guys who, like me don’t fit into the traditional masculinity box.
We are socialized to conform and if we aren’t tough, emotionless, macho guys who want to have sex with every hot female we see, then the words come out to put us in our place. Words like faggot, wuss, pussy, wimp, queer, girl, gay, etc. Words that boy in Nova Scotia probably heard from the bullies who thought that wearing a pink shirt somehow denoted his sexuality, defined his masculinity and made him a traitor to his gender.Today is the Day of Pink. It is one day in an ongoing effort to put an end to bullying in schools. Click To Tweet
Gender is something we create. It is something that we define. Maleness is something that we define and that we can redefine. Others have said it before and I will repeat it. Pink is a colour, it is not a gender. Colours don’t have gender and they don’t define gender. Gender does not define us.
I was raised primarily by my mother and I live in a house with five females (including the cat). If someone wants to suggest that I do something like a girl I will take it as a badge of honour because I know and am related to some incredible girls and women. I am proud to have friends and former co-workers who are queer, whether they identify as lesbian, gay, bi, or trans* they are all good people and their sexual identity does not define what they are capable of or who they are.
So today, I will wear pink in support and to continue the work of redefining masculinity. I will talk with my daughters about standing up whenever they encounter bullies and about the power of collective action.
Plus… pink goes well with my complexion…